With sex being so easily attainable and readily available I wonder if true connection will become such a rarity that it is almost non existent… While that statement may seem a bit over the top, it’s actually not far fetched. Think about it. The norm for relationship is text, touch and go. People meet for a few meals and a night of Netflix and chill. Then the next day begins with a start of the new and a complete disconnect from just hours, maybe even minutes before. There is often no consideration for truly building with someone; learning who the are beneath the surface, what they want, where they’ve been and simply if you’re compatible prior to becoming physical.
I spoke to a friend earlier today who thinks I live my life too uptight. She wishes I’d be more of a free spirit. Her idea of that in the dating world is “hang out with who you want, get what you can from all of them and sleep with one or all of whom you think sex would be great with. A hoe right? I know! I tell her all the time. However in recent conversation with some of my platonic guy friends, what she says is the norm for single women, and most men appreciate it. Apparently, turning a hoe into a housewife is a thing now. (Do as you please… Not my monkeys, not my circus.)
Personally, I can’t kiss a man that I don’t have feelings for, let alone sleep with him! Say what you want but I don’t want random spit on me from a guy that I hardly know! And no, you don’t get to enter my body based on you swag, social or financial status, or because you send a random dick pic… PLEASE STOP DOING THAT! I promise you that’s a sure way to never see me again. You’re not different or special… Not behaving like an immature buffoon.
What makes a man/woman special? I’m glad you asked. What makes a person special is their ability to live in their own skin and be comfortable at all times. A person who is intriguing because of his/her authenticity. They speak to you in languages beyond the physical without ever trying… He makes love to your mind… When that happens the body will soon follow. Does that mean you’ve found your happily ever after? No, not at all. It does mean you’ve opened up and allowed yourself to be poured into, that you’ve made visible the strongest part of you. Your vulnerability… Before you give all of you away to another person again, first ask yourself… Did he make love to your mind?
What do you think?