Clearly! Intentionally forcing someone to contain unbridled grief or anger as if they were a magician, having complete power over their emotions is a cruel punishment. I’ve been made to deal with these exact situations and hold a peace that I despised just to steer clear of confrontation. A confrontation that was in no way my intent. My two choices were to suffer through the silence or chance the conflict as I knew expressing myself would cause a storm. So, I hid my true self under a phoniness, a mask of meekness that could in no way compare to the fire that I am! I died a little every day, in spirit and in the flesh.
Communication is crucial in order to obtain mutual respect. Agreement is not always the result of communication, nor is understanding. Sometimes the entire point of communicating is simply to allow both parties to express their personal thoughts and exchange information. Speaking directly to the person or persons you’ve fallen out of alignment with allows you to detach from inner conflict. The unfortunate part for those who are expressive is that as much as expressing yourself is a strength, it is also very much a weakness.
We are normally very effective at getting our point across because we gather the details of the information, weigh the pros and cons and even try to see the opposing side’s point before addressing an issue. Here’s where reality sets in… The opposing individual/individuals DO NOT CARE! They see things one way and the unfortunate truth is that handling situations in their own way, different from yours, is their RIGHT! I’m not saying THEY ARE right but a one-tracked mind can only open but so far… PURPOSELY! It’s not your job to fix that!
“Kill’em with kindness.” What does that even mean? In communication, a person usually knows that it bothers you to some degree if they refuse you time to express yourself completely. You then try to approach things more aggressively in an effort to release what YOU THINK, what YOU BELIEVE or FEEL. What does that do for you? Nothing but hurt you. Truth is “killing them with kindness” is actually being mature enough to release a person to think, feel, believe and behave exactly the way they want… That’s a testament of their character, not yours.
Killing them with kindness is killing “them” parts of yourself… The parts of you that desires recognition, understanding, appreciation or respect from any person or groups who don’t extend themselves in gentleness, kindness and openness to receive you through their own free will. Killing THEM with kindness takes longer than expected and often times never happens. Allowing the controlling, relying parts of you to die is what I like to identify as being kind enough to yourself to kill the characteristics of yourself that have never and will never serve the better parts of you… And even that release after such a realization can take a mighty long time… But I believe in you!
Love You #Beautiful1s,